One of our time’s worst obsessions is weight. I weigh too much or too Little, or this is what perfect means and I cannot move an inch… And we say weight, but we could be speaking about size or figure, as some also measure themselves like that. There are sizes that are forbidden and others that are desirable. This obsession for weight or size makes us consider the food we eat only for the physical aspect we get from it, rather than by the wellbeing it brings us. And I chose wellbeing instead of nutrition on purpose, as this is key; wellbeing is something we feel, not something we understand. I’m not saying nutrition is not important, on the contrary, to know what we need when we eat and that that is much more important that our physical appearance is essential. But our wellbeing is something we sometimes ignore, when it’s actually pretty central. And we do that because we join together pleasure with palate, and they’re not exactly the same.
As I said before, wellbeing is something we feel, and we feel from the body, not from the mind. For example, we don’t see lions around eating less than what their body is asking from them in case they see themselves too fat. They feel the need to eat in order to have the energy they need, to keep on living, and eating becomes something pleasurable because their body naturally wants what is good for them. As is the case for us humans.
When we disconnect ourselves from our body and what it asks directing our attention to other things, we stop feeling wellness when eating the things that are good for us. Ultimately the wellbeing sensation is hidden behind many needs and fears, loneliness, the feeling of belonging, vulnerability, contact, etc. And eating, particularly, high sugar foods, can provide us with that love we miss, numb us so that we don’t feel that vulnerability, that lack, or we can censor ourselves so as not to get even a gram fatter than we’re supposed to. And from there, feeling what we need or the wish to eat for our wellbeing becomes impossible.
Any process that deals with the topic of our relationship with food or weight needs for us to look deeper inside, to connect with our desire, one that’s real and intimate, the one we have as our birth right, trust in it and learn to look at ourselves from love. Doing this can trigger other things, so having a loving support in this process is important, as to feel the support of someone else´s look can help us learn how it feels and then learn to be able to support ourselves.
In Conectando con tu Latir we can assist your process of connecting with your desire and love by several means, flower essences, tapping, pericardium liberation or Gestalt therapy, or a combination of more than one.
“True discipline is really just self-remembering;
no forcing or fighting is necessary.”
Charles Eisenstein
